Lately, I’ve been going through a lot of changes in my life and it hasn’t been easy, to say the least. There’s been mistakes I’ve made, things I’ve said that I wish I didn’t say but I did because the changes were overwhelming me with emotions and, at the time, I didn’t know how else to respond. I started individual therapy again and have recently started group therapy too. These both happen every week, that’s therapy twice a week. That’s a big change and it can be pretty raw and challenging but that doesn’t mean it’s bad.
I know I need therapy to recover and heal the broken me. Group therapy is not something I have ever done before, that’s an unknown territory of change for me. My friendships and relationships with the people around me are changing and it can be very difficult to accept. There are things I can’t change about those relationships and situations. Which can be extremely upsetting when things aren’t the way they used to be.
I’m still learning to cope with all these changes that arise in my life. Some changes can be relatively easy for me to adjust to, but others can leave me feeling completely distorted with a downward spiral of thoughts. To cope with change, we need to be gentle and patient with ourselves. We need to understand that these changes aren’t to punish us or diminish us but that change is inevitable and part of life. Change can be scary, it can be challenging and it can hurt like hell but that doesn’t mean change is bad. Change can be good, it can grow and shape you to be the best version of you. Change can teach us to be resilient and adaptable.
I don’t know what kind of changes you are going through in your life, but what I do know is this: you are strong enough to get through any and every change and challenge life throws at you. If it’s disconnecting from those you love, that doesn’t mean it will be like this forever but maybe you both need to go your separate ways for a while to heal and work on yourselves. If it’s a new job, a new school, a new class, a new doctor or therapist, you will adjust. It might not happen straight away but you will get there. Be kind to yourself, you are doing your best and your best is enough.
Lots of love,
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