Ah, the holidays. For some, it’s full of wonder and joy, but for others, it’s a time of chaos and stress - both of which are totally valid. Whether it’s stress to do with having to spend money, seeing certain family members, food, or whatever else might be on your mind, know that you’re not alone.
Something that I and those around me have found to be useful is setting boundaries. This could be setting strict rules around what you do or don’t want to discuss with family (for example politics, current events, etc), being selective about what events you attend, being honest about the feelings and emotions that the holidays bring up for you, and, most importantly, remembering it’s absolutely okay to take a break.
It might be hard at first to set these boundaries and stick to your rules, but believe me when I say that it can make such a big difference. After a while, it will also become easier as you practise saying ‘no’ and reaffirming your boundaries. It might not be easy, but it will be worth it. If it helps make the holidays a bit better, then that’s all the matters.
It’s also important to point out that the holidays won’t last forever. Once the silly season is over, that’s it for another year. Then, you can take a deep breath and remember that you have gotten through it and that in itself is a big achievement.
-Claudia
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